Here’s a trick:
Mirror her, echo what she’s saying before giving a real response or opinion.
She says: But all my friends are going to the….. (something you don’t want her to go to)
You say: I see, this is important to you because all of your friends are going. You enjoy spending time with your friends.
THEN you say: But I just can’t let you go. It’s unsafe for someone your age to… and I can’t let you be in harm’s way.
You probably won’t get a cheerful ‘ok’ from your tween, but in that moment in which you demonstrate you understand her perspective you will get respect. And she will LISTEN to you when she knows that you have really listened to her!
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